If you aren’t familiar with the term, being ‘Triggered’ or ‘having our buttons pressed’ means anything that causes resistance and an uncomfortable reaction in us. Often, it is other people who trigger us, and of course vice versa.
Responsibility Dumping and Inappropriate Apologising
The first thing to note about pressing other people’s buttons or triggering them is that unless it’s done intentionally, it is never your fault or responsibility.
Equally, if someone triggers us or presses our buttons, it is never the fault or responsibility of that person. We cannot blame someone for merely being who they are.
A person could be triggered by a certain mannerism, hair colour, style of clothing, a scent, a certain word or phrase, an opinion, or a million others things which may remind them of an uncomfortable experience in the past, or, in some way, make an Unconscious self-judgement that they may have immediately relevant to the current moment. We can’t, for example, blame an old man just because his white hair triggers us into a bad memory of someone else who had white hair.
A trigger brings a self-judgement to the surface of our experience. For example, the self-judgement that one is too big for a swimming costume lies dormant until the beach season comes around. These triggers happen all the time, every day, in all walks of life.
Kissing Consciousness Trigger Dynamics
Kissing Consciousness defines the following set of trigger aspects to help in navigating the dynamics around triggers…