No means no. Silence also means no. Not answering means no. If you or they are not sure, this also means no, as it isn’t a ‘Yes’. If something isn’t a ‘Yes’ then it’s a ‘No’. A ‘Yes’ becomes ‘No’ if it is replaced by a ‘No’ or a ‘Not sure’.
Even though you may have a Barrier around something, that Barrier is still also a Boundary to be honoured and respected.
People don’t have the right to say, “It’s a Barrier, so you must go beyond it!” (usually associated with “… and connect with me!”) in order to get their way. It’s up to you. In theory, you shouldn’t even have to make a decision on it, as silence means no. All of this doesn’t just apply to sex, it applies to everything.
Anywhere you’ve bought into the self-judgement that you aren’t allowed to state your Boundaries, or that you aren’t allowed to have them respected, would you like to let that go?
And would you like to ask your body if it would like to let that go?